The other day I was working for
someone and she kept on stating, you are effeminate and I must admit somewhere
in her head, she wondered why it did not bother me. I will say why, “It is not
my fault, why should it bother me?”
I am a son to a single parent, raised
by four strong women: My mother, grandmother, aunt (took me through high school)
and my spiritual authority, you guessed right, a woman. So, where were the men?
I do have uncles and still they were busy minding their business which was not
me, I know, unfortunate.
So what do you expect from me if
not to act like the man they curved me to be. I have always stated that I am
the guy my friends call when a chic has decided to ignore him and after a few
words, she agrees to the advances. I find it easy to work with women because I have
understood how they think and how they act what button to push.
I went to campus and here I was
all alone, taking on the world and having no one to protect me from it as
opposed to having a guardian watching out for what might happen to me. I started
interacting with the men I could get in touch with but unfortunately their line
of thought repulsed me in to being alone and seeking new male role models
without looking at what they have achieved (wealth and whatever else a young
boy can identify as success), but the virtues they live by. Thanks to the
internet, Tyler Perry, Joel Osteen and a few I will not mention at this time
became people I looked up to and still look up to, to become the man I dream of
becoming every single day.
I am not complaining but the
question is, where are the men to save our boys to become men. Leave the
nonsense that a man should carelessly sleep around and engage in not responsible
sexual activities and drink themselves stupid to be the latest meme on the
internet. I am lucky I had a woman who talked to me about sex and reminded me
that a woman is a helper not an object and they are meant to thrive and be
protected since they are care takers and rarely abandon dreams and children
still to the time they become the best versions of who they can be.
I am comfortable and confident of
the man I have become and continue to be. Women, please, we understand you are
independent and can do all by yourself but even the strongest person becomes stronger
by seeking help. Let your sons hang around responsible male figures and ask
your son questions what they did with the man with the time set aside.
Men, women are taking over, they
have gotten to the room, sat at the table, became part of the menu and now
trying to find a way to stay on the table and the room. We are decision makers,
we put pen to paper, let us raise men who will support women and still maintain
the role of being the heads otherwise we cry. Level up!
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