The Power of Suggestion

On this one I am not trying to teach you how to raise your son but sharing on something you might have not thought deeply about or simply never heard… I would love to call it “The Power of Suggestion| The Tongue.”

We talk down to the “ugly” saying they go in front of the mirror to say to their reflection “…I am fearfully and wonderfully made” so to feel confident about themselves and probably boost their self-esteem a notch higher. Truth be told, it works, we all know how confident they are compared to the perceived good looking type.

So back to the male specie, whatever you tell them every day as a parent, coworker, mate, partner or whatever he is to you, matters a lot. Whatever you buy that son as a toy has an influence over his character building… it might be a way of making yourself feel good for not being physically there since the bills is not going to foot itself but you are destroying them by what exactly you are getting them from the toy store. There was a time cash was a non-issue at home but one thing is for sure, my parent never bought us machine guns to violent appealing toys that would have created a dangerous urge to own one since your boy here (me) has been in the ghetto long enough to be influenced.

I owned puzzles to brick games that made me more creative to a common critical thinker. Movies had a restriction to the number I could watch in a week and type. I had something called OUTSIDE to play with and not a lot of video games (like hell, who bought the TV set? Good! Now we know who owned the remote and the keys to that cabin space set for the TV that were on lockdown mostly during the day).

House chores were another way laid upon me that brought out the responsible side of me. Please, if you love your son as much as you say it, teach them how to clear the table after eating as young as possible and to clean their socks as they upgrade to more tough tasks with age.

Let them mingle out there with peers. It comes in handy for them to start being street smart. We all know that no class is permanent and never is there an islander (you have to learn how to live with people and how to survive if s*** got real) and all this will not be learnt while locked in the house and movies to video games all day.

Learn to assure any male in your life that they are good at what they are doing and encourage them to get out of their comfort zones and reach for the galaxy and you will be amazed at what they will achieve. There is power in the tongue and what we do to or around these fading species (power of suggestion). Happy Dads month as it comes to a close to all male role models and anyone being a Dad in any way possible. Please be a solution and not a problem.
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The underwear phobia 😱

Ha-ha, how are you bro! I know the headline alone got you uneasy but let us talk since “wanaume nikusaidiana,” and call the spade a spade.

So what is it about us men not being okay with the fact that we cannot keep wearing sieves down there? Like is it for suffocation purposes or? If you try stick to a one month 3 pairs of underwear or boxers depending on your taste, it results to a cool 3 USD (300 Kenyan shilling) and two months for some depending on how you take care of them. The reason I say three is because of the extreme cold weather season you will not end up wearing damp underwear. Damp underwear is not good for your health at all. With that in mind three will do the trick.

The hygiene is another factor. Please it is not masculine neither manly to recycle underwear. Recycle jeans and shoes but not your underwear. Why? With the drops of urine times the number of times you visit the toilet, those day dreams because you were teased by your female counter or saw something on the street and you got a spill, the sweat to mention but a few are enough reason you should keep them clean at all cost. Imagine you do not need any effort to do that. Immediately you are done bathing which should be every day, wash your underwear and leave them to dry.

Buying them is another thing I noticed, for goodness sake, it is your boxer| underwear and you will be the one wearing it... so be a man, take time and carefully select them wherever you are buying them. Even if it means buying them from a male vender if it makes you comfortable (o get in touch with me I will connect you to someone who will deliver them to you but at an extra cost depending on where you are located). Some of you buy them as if you are at hells shop buying sin and do not want anyone to see yet it is evident why you are standing there at that given moment. So, take your time, select wisely because in order for you to feel confident outside you must be confidently dressed inside especially if you are going to sag and show them to everyone, let them be worth the stare. Have fun when shopping for those underwear since the hold the most important properties we could own and all free given by God.

Understand your size. Don’t wear too tight, it is not doing you any justice any given way. Let them hug but not squeeze and try stick to cotton especially with the sweat production down there, nobody has the time and energy to carry a towel and cotton sucks it all in (the more reason not to recycle them). Love yourself and do some research on what fits your needs and worth deserving to hold your goodies all day.

Experiment. Please here is a link to a glossary on different types of underwear out there since sometimes when getting ready you look at some fabrics and wonder if you should go commando just to avoid some funny traces while rocking a dapper to classic look. Good news! You do not have to go commando just to look awesome.

Send in your questions and drop your comments on any other topic you need help on as a dude. And also to the ladies, I know some of you are reading this and hiding while at it-you too can ask on anything to help better us brothers out here to look and act good for you.

                                                             ©Francis Wairimu 

Father’s *

We made a whole lot of noise about mother’s day… but does it mean that Dads do not matter? Well, it is Dads’ month so let us talk about this fragile person. Well yes, science has proved that men are pretty much sensitive and emotional and the reason some of you will cast a NO! At me is simply coz it is another fact that they are good at hiding the two.

A father is someone who believes that by donating his sperm for your creation, he has done his duty in life. A dad is someone who gets up every day and does whatever he can to put a roof over your head, clothes on your back and food on your table. He might have to dig ditches, flip hamburgers, deliver pizzas, and work in a factory— or all of the above. He might not own a suit and tie. He teaches the value of hard work not because he’s looking for help mowing the lawn, but because he knows idleness leads to trouble. He realizes his job is to make his children productive citizens, and to do that, he can’t always be his child’s friend - Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar

It is hard being a single Dad compared to being a single mom, why would you say this Francis Wairimu?, it is simply from experience when I took care of my two brothers at their tender age and the way I saw my mother doing it easily without looking a tiny bit hard… women have the capability of handling like ten things at a go and fully accomplish them at the given precision, while men, OMG!, they will do only three but one will be a total mess, the other half backed and last one perfect with room for discussion.

That is why men marry to replace their gone spouses and get help with the kids and provide the best way they know for their family. So do not blame us that is how we function. But that does not mean it is cute exaggerating mother’s day compared to father’s day. I have been raised by literally women figures in my life from my mother to aunts to my lovely grandma but it is thanks to them having the best dad that they learnt how to fight and be proud of themselves. In them days and era, a man who sired daughters only with no son was looked down at but he reminded them that there was never a day he regretted or missed that he had a son because he got five awesome girls and wish he was around because those girls turned out to be the best women the world could not do without.

For the few men we can call men, there is a man somewhere who taught them to be the best they are now, positively or negatively (although behind every great man there is a woman) but let us appreciate the few that take care of their family, the ones that life forced fatherhood roles on them especially in cases of single moms where the son resumes the duties of being the provider to that family, the guy who had to drop out of school so that his sister or brother could continue their studies, the men who have gone out of their way to adopt a kid and not because they cannot sire (also the best one for still being a dad to someone) but because they are willing to provide a better life for another human being, upright spiritual dads who teach what is right and condemn the wrong in the most loving way possible with good will at heart, men activist who fight for the respect of the female species, dad who sacrifice their family time to fight for the peace, sanity and freedom of this country and last but not least single women who had to be and still have to be a dad and mom to their sons and daughters. Happy father’s month and day in advance to the 18th of June 2017. “Anyone can be a father but it takes someone special to be a daddy.”

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