The Power of Suggestion

On this one I am not trying to teach you how to raise your son but sharing on something you might have not thought deeply about or simply never heard… I would love to call it “The Power of Suggestion| The Tongue.”

We talk down to the “ugly” saying they go in front of the mirror to say to their reflection “…I am fearfully and wonderfully made” so to feel confident about themselves and probably boost their self-esteem a notch higher. Truth be told, it works, we all know how confident they are compared to the perceived good looking type.

So back to the male specie, whatever you tell them every day as a parent, coworker, mate, partner or whatever he is to you, matters a lot. Whatever you buy that son as a toy has an influence over his character building… it might be a way of making yourself feel good for not being physically there since the bills is not going to foot itself but you are destroying them by what exactly you are getting them from the toy store. There was a time cash was a non-issue at home but one thing is for sure, my parent never bought us machine guns to violent appealing toys that would have created a dangerous urge to own one since your boy here (me) has been in the ghetto long enough to be influenced.

I owned puzzles to brick games that made me more creative to a common critical thinker. Movies had a restriction to the number I could watch in a week and type. I had something called OUTSIDE to play with and not a lot of video games (like hell, who bought the TV set? Good! Now we know who owned the remote and the keys to that cabin space set for the TV that were on lockdown mostly during the day).

House chores were another way laid upon me that brought out the responsible side of me. Please, if you love your son as much as you say it, teach them how to clear the table after eating as young as possible and to clean their socks as they upgrade to more tough tasks with age.

Let them mingle out there with peers. It comes in handy for them to start being street smart. We all know that no class is permanent and never is there an islander (you have to learn how to live with people and how to survive if s*** got real) and all this will not be learnt while locked in the house and movies to video games all day.

Learn to assure any male in your life that they are good at what they are doing and encourage them to get out of their comfort zones and reach for the galaxy and you will be amazed at what they will achieve. There is power in the tongue and what we do to or around these fading species (power of suggestion). Happy Dads month as it comes to a close to all male role models and anyone being a Dad in any way possible. Please be a solution and not a problem.
                                                       ©Francis Wairimu